A wife of noble character who can find?...She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue...Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Proverbs 31:10, 26 & 28

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Long Time No Blog

Just a quick blog to let you all know that we arrived in Victoria, safe and sound. We are currently staying with Tim's aunty and are looking for a place to live. Rose is commando crawling at six months and one week, she's so clever, and putting on the charm for all the family who hadn't met her before. It's Dan's birthday today and Josiah's next week. We're hoping to go rollerblading with some friends and family for their birthday's. Christian is still not talking properly, though he is attempting to say more words, even though we still can't understand him. We're taking him to the doctor on Thursday and will find out if he thinks Christian needs to see a specialist. It'll be good to see our family doctor again, it wasn't quite the same, going and seeing a different doctor in Newcastle. Sorry it's been so long between blogs, we don't have the internet on at Tim's aunties so I have to check my emails and everything else when I go over to Tim's mum and dad's house.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

It's all happening

Well the container came yesterday and the skip came this morning so we have no excuses left, we need to get frantically busy. My computer was the first one to get taken offline and ready to go into the container so I'm using Tim's computer, which meant I had to frantically search everything for my passwords. I have a hopeless memory and couldn't log into my emails or blog. But everything's okay now. I'm here letting you all know how we're doing.

Christian can't decide who his favourite is, The Wiggles or Thomas the Tank Engine. He loves both of them. We bought him a Wiggles guitar which plays bits of their songs and makes funny noises. He was playing with one at church and was really upset that he had to put it back in the cry room. While we don't automatically go out and buy any of our children everything their little hearts desire we did think it might make the transition down to Melbourne just that little bit easier for him. I also found Josiah plastic Thomas the Tank Engine and Percy and Christian is torn between playing with the guitar and the trains. We also bought him some new Thomas rain boots, so he can still play outside even when it's cold and wet.

Rose got some cute little pink baby volleys. It's really mild here and it's okay for Rose to get around in socks, but down there, in Victoria, it's too cold and she'll need more to keep her little feet warm and as KMart has a 20% of footware sale we thought these were too cute to pass up. I can't wait to dress her, this morning, and put them on her. Knowing babies they probably won't stay on long, or Christian will pull them off her feet, he pulls off her head bands and hats.

You'll notice that our weekly menu isn't that healthy or frugal this week. As we need to pack our kitchen up we won't be able to cook anything and on Thursday we'll still be driving down, we probably won't get there until 10 or 11pm, so the kid's get a rare treat of Macca's of KFC, or maybe even Hungry Jacks.

Monday, July 14, 2008

A Quote I love

I just found this quote on a blog I've been reading. I think it's pretty spot on.

"The Bible calls debt a curse and children a blessing; but in our culture, we apply for a curse and reject blessings. Something is wrong with this picture." ~ Doug Phillips

Friday, July 11, 2008

Child Training

Today I've been looking at some websites about child training. It's amazing the differences regarding how families view how children should be raised. I know that when I only had 2 children I viewed child rearing completely differently to how I view it now, with 6. I was very relaxed with 2 and probably let my 2 boys get away with too much. I also worked until I had my 2nd with comes with it's own problems. But when I had my 3rd child I realized that things were going to get out of hand. I think that my boys were good kids but they were very disturbing in church and I wasn't sure how we had gotten in that habit. I resolved that that behaviour had to stop. I'd seen other children behave well in church so I knew it could be done so I put my mind to making the children sit still on their chairs in church, after all they went out with the other kids to creche so it wasn't like they were sitting still for the whole service. I was, I believed at the time, really mean, and it was hard because that wasn't how I wanted to be perceived by my children. I think every mum wants to be seen as a great mum by their children, but my children didn't see me like that at that time. For three long Sundays I consistently made my children sit still with me in church. For three long weeks I wasn't able to enter into worship, or listen to the service, but hey I wasn't able to do that before anyway, as they were mucking up too much and I was constantly trying to shush them (I found it helpful to separate my boys and sit in between them, they still can't sit next to each other after all this time and I also use this technique with my younger ones). Then after 3 weeks I noticed a remarkable improvement. I wasn't needing to keep an eagle eye on them to make them sit still or stop talking, they were actually doing what I wanted them to do and they just sat on their chair. I couldn't believe that I had waited so long to do that! Being mean for 3 weeks was so much better than being stressed and embarrassed for months or even years. I still needed to pull them up but it wasn't hard to do that occasionally and every now and then they'd test the boundaries again just to make sure I meant what I said and I would crack down on them in a second. I was finding that I could be that nice mum again without adding the stressed and embarrassed. I have since used used that technique with all the children and it has been very successful. I just remind myself that it's only a few weeks of harshness compared to the months of my whining and whinging at them. Who listens to a whiner, anyway? I know I certainly don't and it's true with children too, they'll switch off if they're whinged at and it doesn't make for a nice, happy home. But if you instruct your children well to obey you in the first place everything runs much smoother and everyone is a lot happier.

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Changes to the Previous Update

I spoke, or in this case wrote, too soon. We're not going to hire the truck for the day, we're getting a container and storing our gear in the container until we get a place to live. It may cost more up front but it is the best way to go in the long run. Then we don't have to worry about how we're going to get our gear from storage, the container will be dropped off for us to unload. It's such a relief to have these details getting sorted out and now all I really need to worry about is being packed on time.

Another Update

Well everything is in full swing here. We've started booking things and with selling the Kia Carnival (which wasn't working) we'll now have enough money to do the move. We still don't have a house but Tim's Aunty has kindly offered her home to us or Tim's brother has offered his tent. Also some family members have offered to have some of the kids for a while. What we're doing is hiring a truck for the day and moving all our stuff into storage up here, where it's cheaper, and hiring an enclosed trailer to take what we really need down with us. Neither of us have ever driven with a trailer on the car so it'll be a really interesting experience. I can still have cleaners come and clean the house, I'm so glad because this house is just too huge for me to clean on my own, even with the kids helping I don't think we could do a good enough job, and the cleaners have offered us a really good deal on steam cleaning the carpets if they do both.

I've had window shopping withdrawals lately because with the cost of fuel I've only been making trips that were absolutely necessary. But on Sunday I did get to go to Kmart. I only got to look at the toys because I took Daniel to pick out something for his birthday and I wanted to get a part of Christians birthday present. Christian's birthday is 2 days after Christmas so I have to think of it now or else I'd be buying it at the same time I'm trying to buy Christmas presents and I probably wouldn't have as much to spend at that time. I know that it's probably not a good time to buy stuff right before we move but by the time we get down to Victoria the toy sale will be over and at the moment the items I wanted are half price. I'm hanging out to go to Fantastic Furniture though. I don't get their catalogue and it's not quite the same looking at the catalogue online. I'm one of those people who is able to get enjoyment from reading junk mail and planning what I would like to get in the future, it's not often I look and get upset that I can't get the stuff I want now. But Fantastic Furniture is on the other side of Maitland, about 25 mins away so I haven't been able to. Maybe when we go down to Victoria as I'm going to have to buy a new bed. I'm still getting rid of this bed so that I can get a new one. I've been waiting for a new one for 7 years and I'm finally going to get it. And I also need to replace the furniture I've given away as we're not going to be able to use the furniture we were going to when we were going to live in that house. I'll enjoy making a list of furniture to replace and then finding out how much it'll cost and then budgeting it. I know I'm sick but it's a little bit of order in this chaotic life.

Monday, July 7, 2008

Update on the move


Just wanted to update you all on our situation here. We are still moving but some of the circumstances with the move have changed. I'll start from the beginning....

Originally Tim's sister, Sam, rang with an idea to use our tax money to move back down, without removalists, Just Tim and his dad and a maybe a friend driving a few trucks down. We knew it would be too expensive but decided to look into it anyway so we had the facts when we spoke to her. We were right. It was going to cost us somewhere between $5000 and $6000 plus bond for another house. We just don't have that kind of money and the tax benefit wouldn't cover it either. We were resigned to staying and were about to sign a 12 month lease on this house. That day we had a phone call from a lady that we knew from church down in Victoria, who was giving Tim some web design work. She said that her and her husband had been removalists and could get a good deal on a truck and her husband would help us with the move. They used their contacts and found a truck for $1200. This truck was a lot smaller than the one that brought us up here so we needed to get rid of a lot of furniture, that we probably wouldn't have wanted to get rid of under other circumstances, but these people were also buying themselves new furniture and offered us their old stuff until we could buy our own new stuff. We were astounded and decided to take them up on their offer. We still needed to wait for tax time, but they came back with an offer to lend us the money so we could move down sooner and we could pay them back when our tax money came through. We were a bit unsure and said that we were happy to wait for tax time but they insisted. We organised with Tim's aunty for us to stay with her until we found a house. It's not an ideal situation as she lives in a 2 bedroom unit but she loves having us stay with her and she offered. But this couple from church told us that they wanted to buy a rental property and wanted us to live in it. It sounded perfect but we told them that we didn't expect them to do that. They insisted that they were being blessed by God and wanted to bless us.

The houses that they were looking at were very expensive and Tim let them know that we really couldn't afford any more than we were paying at this house. She said that they would never expect any more. Then they earned a windfall and were able to buy their house and a house for us to live in straight out. We got a phone call saying that they didn't want us to pay rent ever! Wow! And they wanted to put in a pool and a Macca's style playground! What a blessing, but they could afford it now, I guessed. Then a couple of days later they rang back and said that they would need to charge us some rent as the house was going under the business name, but it wouldn't be a lot. We could accept that, that was fair enough, as long as they realized we couldn't pay more that $350 a week. Yep, they said. Then the contracts were being signed and we were being told to hand in our notice on the house. We wanted to wait until everything was through as our whole housing situation was in their hands but under their urging we handed in our notice. We were now 100 per cent committed and had to move or we else we had nowhere to live. The next day we were asked to extend that notice buy 2 weeks just in case everything was not through.

Then a couple of days later we were told that they had to talk to someone who had concerns about their dealings, these people were trying to 'bless' quite a few people and going overboard. They had a meeting with the church leaders as what they were doing was affecting the leadership and they were told to put everything on hold. They rang us and wrongly said they'd had their meeting and couldn't help us at all. You can imagine our surprise as this whole move was happening because of them and we'd made decisions that we normally wouldn't have made under their urging. Tim's dad said they were having another meeting and hopefully this would all be sorted out, although he wouldn't be in this one.

Last night we had another phone call. They could help us move but only after the 19th of July, as we have to hand in our keys on the 21st and have already organised for the cleaners to come in on the 19th that's not going to work for us as our stuff has to be out of here. That means we have to hire a truck that we can drive and take our gear to storage and then have nowhere to sleep while waiting for them to get here. Also, as they're going to hire the truck from Victoria, it's going to be more expensive and her husband will need to charge us for his help now. They would still lend us the money to move and we would need to pay them back at $100 a week, rather that waiting for tax time. Regarding the house, they would still rent it to us at $300 a week on a 3 month lease, after that if we still wanted to stay we would have to pay $550 a week, plus the $100 for the move that comes to $650 a week. That's almost double what we are paying now!

Also they were not going to give Tim the web design work that they had promised, so how we are meant to pay any rent I don't know! Anyway we are still planning on moving but without their help. These people change their minds like they change underwear so we've decided not to have anything else to do with them. Tim won't even bill them for the time already spent on one website, he just won't give it to them. We're thinking of moving our stuff to storage and buying a trailer to take what we really need down. Tim's aunty's offer is still there. We are good tenants so are hoping that it won't take too long to find a house to live in, we'll see anyway.

Yes I am still angry with these people, but what goes around comes around and they'll need to sleep at night with their actions, I can rest easily with mine. We believe that everything will turn out alright in the end, they've just forced us to do something we wanted to do, before we wanted to do it, that's all.


Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Morning Musings

It's been a while since I posted but we've been busy packing and the two littlies and myself have had a cold. Now Tim has it. We have just over 2 weeks before we are moving so things are happening fast around here. It's hard to believe that a month ago we hadn't seriously considered moving but in next to no time we will be. We've kind of had to bribe the kids with some pets and new bikes and things like that for them to be as excited as we are. Even though we've only been here for less that 18 months they've grown quite attached to the place. They haven't really made many friends so I would have thought they'd be happy to go back to their old friends, I know their friends and family down in Victoria are so excited for them to be back.

Kahlia decided to make some library bags to sell on the homeschool board for some pocket money and a kind lady has sent her some material to use. She was so excited that she wanted to start sewing straight away, but as I've already packed all my sewing gear she'll have to wait until after we've settled in to our new place. She made a great little one for Christian which I've put some books in for the the car ride down to Victoria.

Christian is right into Thomas the Tank Engine at the moment. He discovered a book first and absolutely loved it, so I found another book and he picked out the Thomas toys out of the toy box and as I was packing most of the videos I found a Thomas video. He's actually trying to say the names of the trains, which is an improvement, he doesn't normally try and say anything useful, it's always gibberish. For Christmas I'm going to try and buy him one of those tables and wooden train sets with some Thomas trains. We have one wooden Lady train somewhere and a figure 8 railroad but it'd be good to have a set place for it on a table. As his birthday is 2 days after Christmas I might buy lots of Thomas stuff for him and give him half for Christmas and half for his birthday. He's also getting into Dora the Explorer. I'm wondering if it'll be easier to teach him to speak Spanish rather than English at the rate he's going.

Kahlia finished netball on Saturday. The next 2 Saturdays there aren't any games on and the Saturday after that is the weekend we'll be moving and her team has a bye so we said goodbye to her teammates. I asked Kahlia if she wanted to go to practice one last time but she said 'no'. Now I'll have to find her a team to play in down in Victoria. I'm not really sporty so I don't know if netball is as big down there as it is here but I want to encourage her to continue. Daniel wants to play basketball and as Elijah was bugging me a couple of years ago to play basketball I'll have a look and see if I can find somewhere for them to play.

Dan's also suggested that we get a drum kit and put it in the garage. I have to laugh at his plans. But if it gets him excited about the move I'll let him dream. I'll look into it but I'm not promising anything. Tim had already lined some drum lessons up before we moved up here so I guess they're hoping to still be able to do that. I'm just looking forward to seeing my friends and Tim's family again.

Tim's brother's wife and kids came to visit us the day before yesterday and it was so great to see them. My little nephew has grown so much and we miss out on all that being so far away from everyone. Plus their girls are close to Kahlia's age and Kahlia really needs some friends that don't make her feel like crap, like her main 'friend' (and I use that term loosely) does. Since moving up here she has picked up a nervous cough and a funny way of making her teeth look like buck teeth. It's hard to see such changes happen and I hope that the move back helps her to get past these.