Sunday, December 19, 2010
It's been a couple of weeks now since I started getting Em to try and settle herself in her cot. I don't know if my last couple of blogs made much sense as I was severely sleep deprived and depressed but the self settling techniques I have been using seem to be working.
When Emily was a little baby I was planning on blogging about how I get my babies to settle themselves without much fuss, I was just going to wait until I actually had her settling to write the blog. Well that didn't happen. She had reflux and cried so much. I gave her a dummy and she still cried. We walked around the room singing 'Jesus Loves Me' to her and she still cried. That was what she got used to so even thought her reflux may not be so bad anymore she still wanted to be cuddled off to sleep and sung to, even when she woke up in the middle of the night. Luckily for me I had so many helping hands to hold her when she needed or to do jobs for me if I was holding Em. And then the pinching started, and boy did it hurt. I had bruises all over my neck and my underarms and as the weeks went past the pinching was hurting more. That child has strong little fingers.
At a home school mums get-together I was talking with another lady about how difficult it was to get Emily off to sleep and that she only slept in her cot for about 5 min's and at the most 20 and that she still needed to rocked and sung to in the middle of the night. This lady had a similar issue with her daughter, who is a couple of months younger that Emily. The lady had been at breaking point and ended up taking her daughter to 'Sleep School'. She told me a little bit about sleep school and what they did. It sounded very much like 'Controlled Crying' which is kind of what I used with my four older cherubs (I'm just such a softy now). I thought to myself I've done this before I can do it again, but I was going to wait until after Christmas.
My sanity had other ideas about the timing, though, and I reached my breaking point 2 weeks ago. I googled controlled crying because I just wanted to have some back-up, I could tell myself that these people did it and it worked for them. Also the info I googled let me know that it would take about 3 days and if it took longer then there was something else that was the problem and to see a doctor. The first day Emily took over 2 hours to settle every time I put her to bed. I only went in a couple of times to check on her, I also had the baby monitor on. The second day it took under an hour each time and the third day we were down to 5 min's for the most part. It was hard, very hard and I hated doing it but I had reached that point.
2 weeks later and she is settling after only a couple of cries most of the time and she has even slept through the night twice. I'm able to get stuff done because I'm not as tired from holding her so much, although she is still going to sleep for the night a little bit too late for my liking (11:30 pm) but we'll get through this too.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
I'm so frustrated. Last night I was almost finished writing a post but then got sidetracked by visitors and forgot all about it. It was only auto-saved so I don't think I can get it back. Damn!
Anyway lots of things are going on here, I'll share some of them in point form:
- Emily has her first tooth.
- She is also walking around the furniture and has taken 4 steps.
- She loves standing up at the furniture and then letting go to clap.
- She gets cuddled to sleep and has been pinching my neck and arms as she goes off to sleep.
- She also is really hard to settle so we pace the floor and sing Jesus Loves Me to her even at midnight.
- This has drained me so much and is starting to affect my relationship with her so I've put my foot down and we are now in our second day of getting her to go to sleep in her cot.
- We've finished up our schoolwork for the year.
- I'm looking forward to getting together with family for Christmas. I don't go so much for the commercialism and we don't have santa or a christmas tree but we do have some presents and a kris kringle for our family get together.
- Rose is being toilet trained. The weather here has warmed up really quickly so I've been letting Rose and Christian run around in their undies. Rose doesn't have many accidents but she still has to master doing poos in the potty.
- Josiah got mostly A's with a couple of B's at TAFE. He'll be doing year 12 next year and has decided her wants to be a helicopter pilot.
- The main reason that I haven't posted much this year is that every time I try and post something I have a sooky child wanting my attention and now is included. Rose is sitting on the floor at my feet throwing a temper tantrum and Emily has been crying because I walked away from her....Rose has finally gotten the hint and walked off but she'll probably get into mischief.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
This is my post that I thought I had lost:
Emily is now 10 months old and has gotten her first tooth this week. Today she even took 4 steps. I'm hoping that she might be walking by Christmas so I can brag about it but she won't even be 11 mths old yet so I'm not holding my breath. Last night I cracked it with her and put her into the cot to sleep. I've tried this several times but each time her heart breaking cries made me cave in and I got her up. Lately she's taken to pinching and scratching my neck and arms as she goes to sleep and she REALLY hurts but my neck can take NO MORE and she will now have to go off to sleep on her own. She has been the most fussy of the lot of our children when it comes to sleep. Our usual thing is to cuddle her to sleep singing 'Jesus Loves Me' and pacing the floor, when she was younger this was the only thing that would settle her and she's grown used to it.Of an evening she'll fall asleep while I feed her, I would then take her to bed with me. Not long after that she would start to squirm and groan in her sleep. If left there she would eventually wake up and not go back to sleep until after midnight but I would get up and pace the floor with her. So now we're doing the controlled crying thing. I'll let you know how it goes.